Trusting Your Body’s Natural Process With My Client, Denita Bremer
This week, I have another beautiful client interview for you! I am talking with Denita Bremer. Denita is a ray of sunshine and such a resilient and compassionate woman! She is a Life & Trauma Coach and was certified as a life coach through The Life Coach School in 2018 and earned an advanced certification through Bev Aron’s Deep Dive Coaching Institute in 2021 and she will be going through the next round of The School of Embodied Healing Systems in August.
In this episode, Denita shares what it was like getting to know her nervous system. She talks about:
Navigating the impact of childhood trauma while at the same time having deep empathy and compassion for her parents
Her journey of learning to trust her body’s natural process
How doing this deep nervous system work had the unexpected benefit of enriching her spiritual practice
How this work has helped her release some of the fear of being...
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Emotional Honesty Podcast
So the past couple weeks we talked about high-functioning anxiety and high-functioning depression so this is really a three-part series. So, if you’d like to you can go back and listen to those two episodes before this one. But this one, as promised is the third part to those and it’s about healing high-functioning anxiety and high functioning depression.
And I believe that emotional honesty is truly what heals us, what helps us integrate our lives, what helps us get out of cycles and patterns and trauma re-enactments. I believe that we spend our whole lives deepening our emotional honesty and our ability to truly be who we are and be authentic which, I mean authentic is like a word I’m starting to hate these days just because it’s such a buzz word now. But it applies to this conversation that we’ve been having on the podcast about depression and anxiety and healing from these things.
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So… last week we talked about high-functioning depression i guess this is technically part 2 of that so you can go ahead and listen to this one on it’s own, or you can listen to part one after - I’ll leave that up to you.
So we talked about how high-functioning depression is just when a high-functioning person feels depressed. And so high-functioning anxiety is when a high-functioning person feels anxious.
And I want to talk for a moment about how we pathologize our experiences. When we pathologize our experiences, we make them abnormal, unhealthy. And there’s almost an underlying belief system like - this “shouldn’t” be happening. I “shouldn’t” be feeling this way and...
High - Functioning Depression Podcast
What is high-functioning depression?
High-functioning depression is essentially when you are a high-functioning person who is depressed. So you have a life that looks good, and feels good some or most of the time but inside you feel completely depressed and you even have the symptoms of depression.
Pushing your life forward despite feeling disconnected, exhausted, and heavy
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The leader is the one who moves first.
The leader knows from an inner-knowing and moves first on that knowing.
The leader is the one who moves - this can be a spiritual moving, a moving of focus, a moving of intention.
The leader is the one who can DELIVER and suffer at the same time.
The leader is highly skilled and magnetic.
The leader is also hiding sometimes.
The full depth of a leader - the full power is very seldom mined.
And those who are called to lead - who are driven and compelled by a singular THING - even if they do not know what the THING is - it calls it coos sometimes, it whispers sometimes, it calls and sometimes it rages and it storms through you at all times.
And there comes a point in leadership - any kind - parenthood, ministry, business, career, performance, art - artists are very often leaders because they lead us to places within ourselves - they speak the soul’s language. And I do consider myself an artist as well as...
In this episode, I'm explaining and simplifying the concept of traumatic re-enactment and talking about three common forms it shows up in our lives. Obsessing & Trying Really Hard, Self-Loathing & Self-Sabotage, and Fawning and People-Pleasing.
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What is Trauma Re-enactment?
Trauma re-enactment is the idea that when we have unresolved traumatic energy in our system, we tend to repeat or re-enact the trauma. Freud had a concept similar to this called repetition-compulsion. And many theorists think that this is the system’s subconscious way of seeking resolution and I tend to agree with aspects of that idea.
It is my personal belief that we are here to heal. That we have a responsibility to do the work of reconnecting with self and others and increasing our own regulation and embodiment to bring balance and regulation into the world. And to change the trajectory of future generations - our children, and our world. I...
I believe we all have a compassionate core that encourages us to gently untangle the knots of trauma-related resistance (emotions, body sensations, deep wounds and core fears)
In this episode, I'm diving deep into this concept and sharing some examples from my own life of how my own use of my compassionate core has helped me get through some intense activations, emotions, and sensations when resolving and working through my personal traumas.
I also talk about where to start if you feel you have no sense of a compassionate core to cultivate it.
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We use the compassionate core when working with trauma-related resistance.
What is trauma-related resistance?
Trauma-related resistance looks like extreme Self-Opposition
A Sense of Complete refusal from self to do things for self. And a lot of times it is a refusal to be with the self - because of a fear of going back to certain places or experiencing certain emotions.