High-Performance, Hard Work & Trauma

High-Performance, Hard Work & Trauma

 

I am reading Michael Dell’s awesome book - “Play Nice But Win”. And I love it. He tells his story of being quite a scrappy, resourceful entrepreneur since he was a teenager. The book zeroes in on the high-stakes transaction he successfully completed when he took his company private after being public. He did this because he wanted to make some big time changes within the company without being in the public eye.

 

‍Risk,

‍Challenge

‍High-stakes

‍Pressure.

 

WOOPH! Love that.

It’s thrilling and amazing.

 

And it’s got me thinking about what it takes to do the real deep hard work of bringing your big dreams to life in a healthy way.

 

There is nothing wrong with hard work!

 

Being an entrepreneur, of course there is some hard work required on the journey of building your dream life and business.

 

Having big dreams does require some effort.

 

Anyone telling...

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Heal for Real Podcast - Episode 81 - The Hope of Repair in a Culture of Management

This week on the podcast I'm sharing with you the foundational paradigm for this work I do! And that paradigm is the hope and potential of repair when it comes to trauma, our bodies and even our communities and our world. 

I am sharing with you this idea in contrast to what I believe is a culture of management. 

I share what the fundamental differences are between a paradigm of repair and management. And I also share about how a management paradigm can be damaging over long periods of time for the nervous system. 

I get a little philosophical in this episode - because I believe that we as practitioners and as people who care about our lives and communities need to be thinking about the paradigms and philosophies that we are bringing to our world.

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[PODCAST EPISODE 63] - Toxic Shame & Fear of Success

It's been a little over a month since I've recorded an episode and I am so happy to be back (and back with a BANG!). In this episode we're talking about toxic shame and how it relates to the fear of success in high-performers. 

Here's What's Covered:
What is Toxic Shame
Where Does it Come From
How Does Toxic Shame Show Up
My Personal Experience With Toxic Shame
Toxic Shame & Fear of Success
Toxic Shame and Internalized Rage
How to Start Healing Toxic Shame

And, at the end I share a simple prayer for support in moving through it. 

Enjoy! 

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Show Notes Below.

 

Toxic Shame & Fear of Success

Intro 

This is a deep, and sort of heavy topic. But it’s very important and it’s not really understood enough in entrepreneurial spaces and leadership and mindset  spaces. We talk about shame, but we don’t really...

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[GHC Episode 58 - Axis of Healing Pt 3. Emotional System(s)]

This week's episode is all about the Emotional System(s). I talk about how emotional literacy, emotional intelligence, and emotional maturity are gateways to cultivating the divine feminine.
I also give 9 tips to help you heal your emotional system(s). 

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Show Notes: https://www.shylacash.com/blog/ghc-episode-58-axis-of-healing-pt-3-emotional-system-s 

Show Notes: 

Emotional system is a messenger system

Drinking some Canadian Tim Hortons steeped tea and ate some pizza - watched mommy tang and the simply podlogical podcast. Had 5 coaching calls. And now i’m recording this podcast. 

 

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BONUS PODCAST - Episode 54 - The Queen's Gambit!

Queen’s Gambit is the epitome of a high-performer grappling with childhood trauma. Beth, brilliant, excels in school, and a wonderful gift/obsession of playing chess.

However, to break the chains of sabotage, and to allow herself the true win that she desires - she’s got to wade through addiction, sorrow, abandonment and loneliness. 

Join me as I share parallels between Beth Harmon's Journey and our journey as High Performers Healing from Trauma.

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Bonus Podcast Episode  - Queen’s Gambit 

 

Queen’s Gambit is the epitome of a high-performer grappling with childhood trauma. Beth, brilliant, excels in school, and a wonderful gift/obsession of playing chess.

 

However, to break the chains of sabotage, and to allow herself the true win that she desires - she’s got to wade through...

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[GHC PODCAST - EPISODE 52] Trauma, Addiction & Recovery with Jeff Simone of Reaction Recovery

It's impossible to look at addiction without seeing the overlap with trauma.

In this episode, I talk with Jeff Simone, He is a Doctor of Pharmacy with a focus on how Fitness and Health help the addicted brain. Our conversation touches on the link between trauma and addiction, the slow pace of bringing the science of trauma into the addiction recovery conversation, spirituality and tons more. 

Follow Jeff on Instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/reactionrecovery/ 

Visit Jeff's Website here: 
https://reactionrecovery.com/ 

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[GHC PODCAST - EPISODE 49] Self - Alienation

 

In this episode I'm talking about a seemingly "heavy topic". I'm sharing with you the cycle of self-alienation which stems from an over-active toxic inner critic. I offer insights on the endless cycle of hating ourselves and catching ourselves in a double-bind and where this comes from. I also discuss how to become aware of this cycle happening in your own life and how to break-free. 

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Self-Alienation is a concept that I’ve been thinking about and meditating and pondering and really looking to take all my knowledge and my energetic imprinting about it and my somatic experience with it and and externalize it and really get it out into the world in a powerful way for you all because I really really have a lot of experience with it and have done SOOOO much healing deeply in my own body mind and soul around it. And I’ve been doing a lot of...

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I FIND MYSELF AGAIN

Usually after I practice my embodiment practice, I find that poetry flows so easily from me
As a child growing up in family dysfunction, writing was a lifeline.

Now, with years of healing and embodiment under my belt, I find that what comes out of me is the story of redemption, and holistic healing. It solidifies the integration of my story within me as a place of power where pain once held me hostage. 

The experience of family pathology and dysfunction begins before we are conscious.
It begins in our imprinting, before we can speak and often before we can remember.

Generational patterns live within us as what Dr. Peter Levine calls “procedural memories”. While we can’t access the cognitive memory, the body knows what lies beneath. It tells the story through tears, trembling, anxiety, depression and other ailments that serve as messengers.

This poem is about how I really didn’t know I had a self. I grew up fractured and traumatized by a narcissistic mother...

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GHC PODCAST EPISODE 48 - BUILDING RESILIENCE

In today's podcast I talk about what it means to build resilience. I talk about what it means to build emotional resilience, and some common misconceptions/myths about what resilience is. 

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Resilience is the ability to bounce back. Move on. Get on with your life.


Resilience is an Emotional Skill that can be built. I like to think that people who have dealt with trauma actually have tremendous capacity to build resilience because of what we have been through. And we think what we have been through disqualifies us - but I really think it qualifies us for some tremendous transcendence, leadership, spiritual gifts if you’re into that kind of thing, as well as empathy, discernment etc - listen to how you think about trauma for more on that.

What Resilience Is:
Connecting to our emotions
Moving through emotions
Managing our own internal states
Recognizing when we need support and...

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Pressure Pressure Rush Rush

Pressure, pressure pressure.
Rush rush rush.
 
Did you ever stop to ask what it is you’re rushing toward?
What it is that you’re in such a hurry for…?
 
Did you forget that healing happens one step at a time darling?
Life happens one moment at a time.
One choice at a time.
That there’s no magical destination. There never was.
You’re actually worthy now.
In this moment.
 
There’s no place you have to get to to be there.
There’s no thing you need to get over.
 
You can move through each moment as it happens.
As you are.
And be here. With yourself. With life. With God. With the universe.
 
And whatever exists in this moment is what is.
No pressure.
No rushing.
Just here. Now.
 
A little acceptance never hurt nobody.
Whatever life to be lived is to be lived now.
You don’t have to be perfect to be here.
You can just be here.
 
PS...
If you can't get out of the pressure-pushing-rushing pain of...
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