Anger is such an important part of health!
Yes - health.
Without the full spectrum of full human emotions - we are not physically healthy. Our Creator designed our emotional and physical experience to be connected to one another.
So - what happens when we repress? What happens when we grow up in homes and environments where the family pushes back or stifles our valid and honest emotional expression?
Emotional Dysregulation, Chronic Illness, High-Functioning Depression & Anxiety Symptoms, and Dysfunctional relationships, Toxic Shame to name just a few.
What can also happen is a confusing relationship with God where we feel afraid to express ourselves to Him - to wrestle with Him, to pour out our hearts before him.
We can more easily get into abusive relationship dynamics and unhealthy spiritual communities because we are less likely to speak up, express needs, set boundaries and advocate for what is right.
When I work with...
PRAYERS FOR YOUR TRAUMA HEALING JOURNEY -PART 1
One prayer I often pray is: “Father - make the crooked places straight in my heart”
I get this prayer from the metaphor often found in Scripture of “preparing the way of the Lord”
In the Old Covenant before Jesus came, Prophets would proclaim His coming and they would declare that One was coming who would make things right with humanity. Who would “level the playing field” against sin, corruption and evil.
One who would heal and restore and repair. One who would light the way both in the world and in our hearts.
I love this metaphor because it is so profoundly true in the context of trauma.
Sin & Trauma creates so much confusion, dysregulation and disruption in our hearts and minds.
As a result, we can see things from distorted lenses.
What is safe seems unsafe & what is unsafe can seem safe.
We can be reactive or easily shut-down as a result of our nervous system’s sensitivity.
Everyone say it with me: Co-Regulation leads to self-regulation!
This is a key concept for understanding trauma healing at the nervous system level because it teaches us how we can access neuroplasticity with support from other people who have regulated nervous systems.
In this episode, I talk about
Scriptures mentioned in the episode:
Let's go back to the beginning, shall we?
In this episode, I share from the book of Genesis - The beginning of the Bible.
Since I have become a Christian, my worldview has been transformed by the power of God's word and His Holy Spirit. And this worldview change, includes how I approach the philosophical ideas and theories of trauma. What we believe about God and ourselves will impact how we approach the treatment of trauma and the experience of suffering and healing. I believe the Bible gives a coherent, powerful, and ultimately liberating reason for why we experience trauma and suffering in our world today.
Here's some of what I cover in this episode:
What is theology?
Why is theology important to trauma?
Sin and the fall
Why is there trauma in the world?
How I approach the science of somatics (body-based trauma healing)
Practical guidelines for Christians as you approach your trauma healing journey to stay grounded in God's Word and avoid being led...
Learning to Trust the Lord
The thing God has been dealing with me most about since I gave my life to Christ last year has been trust.
Trust is a scary dirty word for a lot of us.
Add in a childhood wrought with abuse and neglect or any kind of relational or spiritual trauma for that matter and you compound on the challenge.
In my years of personal trauma recovery, nervous system repair, and formal training - I’ve learned and experienced a lot about the body and trust.
About how the nervous system can be wired for a kind of closed off hyper-independence in which we construct a life where we protect ourselves from the need to trust others for anything.
How the nervous system can learn to be drawn to (and even cling to) what is unsafe in relationships and deeply untrustworthy.
How we can be so cut off from our God-given intuition that we can’t even FEEL the instincts let alone discern and trust them.
How we can feel terrified to trust that which is actually...
So I woke up this morning brimming with gratitude for the integration and activation that's happening within me.
And I am just thinking about all the amazing people that have been divinely put on my path that planted seeds in my spirit.
And I had an overwhelming desire to share it all.
Well this is easily the most vulnerable - and longest live stream I have ever done.
This is the replay of the original stream on INSTA.
It's about what I’m going through and the people that brought me here…
Wow I was not expecting this to go on as long as it did - but it did!
And I was not expecting to be brought to tears - okay maybe I was lol! But not that much…
I share what I’m moving through and integrating and what is coming through me. I also share some of the key people along the way that have made such a difference in my life. Not all the key people of course but the ones that came to mind.
I talked about the deep feelings of self-disgust and self-loathing that kept me...
There was a time when I didn’t have my right mind - my sanity. As a teen you could have diagnosed me with reactive attachment disorder and severe depression and ADHD among other things.
I grew up in a very dysfunctional home. My mom suffers with paranoid schizophrenia and manic depression.
Her childhood was awful - she talks about being suicidal at 11.
She didn’t make her way to healing.
And when she had me, she struggled. And as a result she severely abused and neglected me. She also decided to homeschool me until I was 11.
Growing up in that situation took its toll on my developing brain and body. On the outside I adapted well as I was very smart and quite gifted as a kid. I learned how to perform in school and in church. I kept my home life a secret.
People who knew my mom knew something wasn’t right - but I felt a pressure to protect my parents and so I put on a happy face. As I got older I continued to perform well despite the inner turmoil.
But the body is not...
Buckle up for this conversation with a few of the most recent Embodied Healing Systems Graduates: Andrea Fleming, Denita Bremer & Amber Taylor.
Honestly the caliber of practitioners inside EHS is second to none and this conversation is a taste of the kind of work we do on the regular inside the School.
After all - this is a school for the deeper, smarter, more switched on practitioners.
Apply here for This Round of The school of Embodied Healing Systems: www.shylacash.com/embodiedhealingsystems
This episode of the Heal for Real Podcast features the lovely Amber Taylor.
Amber is a pleasure coach who works with people who are audacious enough to choose joy.
In this episode she talks about:
What it was like to do this work and how it differed from the mindset work she had done in the past.
Realizing that her body had been stuck in chronic freeze.
Learning to go at the pace her body was asking her to go
Her experience inside The School of Embodied Healing Systems
How doing this work supported her to release shame
Realizing how her ADHD symptoms were related to nervous system dysregulation
Working through mom-stuff without needing to repair the relationship
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