In this episode I am talking with an amazing renaissance woman who also happens to be a client of mine! Beth and I worked together for 6 months and she is here to share her experience and the surprising re-invigoration of her artistry that happened as a result.
In this conversation we talk about:
-The difference between thinking your way through something and feeling your way through something.
-How working with her nervous system helped her have space to stop fearing the anger of others
-How her boundaries have strengthened
-How Beth’s personal nervous system work changed her relationship with her mom
-Self-expression, truth and allowing people to have their own responses to your authenticity
-Being “good” and “bad”
And much more!
To see Beth’s art go to: https://www.bethknight.com/
Healthy Expression Helps Your Cells Repair Themselves!
Self Expression Keeps You Healthy!
And I’m not just talking about emotional and spiritual health - I am talking about your physical health too! It allows for good flow within the body systems and actually promotes cellular repair.
Healthy, authentic expression helps us attract safe connection and repel unsafe connection.
It’s what allows us to engage in conflict without harm.
And it makes it easier for people to feel a felt-sense of trust with you.
As an entrepreneur and high-performer - healthy, authentic expression allows you to sell, lead teams effectively, and communicate with your market.
It allows you to grow a business that encourages truthful two-way communication.
It builds a culture of trust in your company.
And it gives you vitality because you don’t feel the need to be someone you aren’t
Think about a time your self expression has been...
High-Performance, Hard Work & Trauma
I am reading Michael Dell’s awesome book - “Play Nice But Win”. And I love it. He tells his story of being quite a scrappy, resourceful entrepreneur since he was a teenager. The book zeroes in on the high-stakes transaction he successfully completed when he took his company private after being public. He did this because he wanted to make some big time changes within the company without being in the public eye.
WOOPH! Love that.
It’s thrilling and amazing.
And it’s got me thinking about what it takes to do the real deep hard work of bringing your big dreams to life in a healthy way.
There is nothing wrong with hard work!
Being an entrepreneur, of course there is some hard work required on the journey of building your dream life and business.
Having big dreams does require some effort.
We all know that learning to be with discomfort is an essential part of healing and growing. In fact, being with discomfort is an essential part of LIFE!
After all - didn’t the Buddhists say life is suffering?
But for you high performers and high achieving entrepreneurs who are used to powering through discomfort - have you noticed that that method and approach doesn’t seem to work as well for the healing journey?
Why is that?
It’s because we don’t see results in our trauma healing when we approach the healing journey from our survival patterns!
Of course - discomfort is part of healing.
But healing requires us to re-evaluate our relationship with discomfort! To heal, we have to support our nervous systems to relate differently to discomfort. Not powering through and burning out. And, not avoiding it all together.
So, what do we do!?
We soften into the...
We are in the final days to enrol in this round of The School of Embodied Healing Systems. I wanted to share with you a little more of my story and the vision behind The School of Embodied Healing Systems.
Listen to this episode if you want to know more about me, my personal story, and the vision of EHS.
And if you are on the fence about The School of Embodied Healing Systems - you will DEFINITELY want to hear this one!
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Talk of trauma and the nervous system is on the rise in the coaching and personal development industry and on the one hand that’s great. More people becoming aware of trauma is what the world needs.
And, on the other hand, we want to make sure that if we are using words like trauma-informed that we are truly trauma-informed.
So let’s look at 3 key elements I’ve defined for a trauma-informed practitioner as well as some specific skills that are a foundational starting point for anyone working with trauma. I’ll also talk about how Embodied Healing Systems will help you learn and apply these elements and skills.
Book your application call with me for The School of Embodied Healing Systems here (enrolment closes on July 31st): www.shylacash.com/embodiedhealingsystems
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This week on the podcast I'm sharing with you the foundational paradigm for this work I do! And that paradigm is the hope and potential of repair when it comes to trauma, our bodies and even our communities and our world.
I am sharing with you this idea in contrast to what I believe is a culture of management.
I share what the fundamental differences are between a paradigm of repair and management. And I also share about how a management paradigm can be damaging over long periods of time for the nervous system.
I get a little philosophical in this episode - because I believe that we as practitioners and as people who care about our lives and communities need to be thinking about the paradigms and philosophies that we are bringing to our world.
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WTF IS NERVOUS SYSTEM CAPACITY?!?!
What you can mentally push yourself to do is not necessarily what your nervous system has the capacity for.
And... what your clients can mentally push themselves to do is not necessarily what they have the capacity for.
What did you feel when you read those statements? Did they feel resonant, like an ah-ha moment?
Or did it feel a little disempowering, confusing? Take a moment to check in with how those statements landed for you in your body.
Now, let me elaborate.
***And, by the way you might want to grab a cup of tea for this read or even print this out because it's a little bit long but VERY important if you want to understand this concept of nervous system capacity.
First - what exactly is capacity from a nervous system perspective?
Or - as I said in the title of this post: WTF is nervous system capacity?!?!
Simply put - capacity is the amount of stress that we can hold and stay present to without having to disconnect from our bodies (by...
I was about 6 years into my healing journey when I discovered the role the nervous system plays in healing from trauma and chronic stress. By healing journey, I mean healing from a childhood of abuse and neglect. Side effects of being raised by a mom whose unresolved childhood trauma led to paranoid schizophrenia, NPD and manic depression.
My journey started with therapy. At around 18, I found myself in the office of an angel who helped me understand that my home was not normal. That it was, in fact, abusive. She gave me a check list for abuse and I checked off almost everything on it.
It was her that helped me realize I needed to move away from my parents home.
After that, things were not all well and good. I was a mess - and chose to put myself in messy relationships with messy people. I was dysfunctional inside. But I worked hard at my retail job, I participated in church leadership, and I did well in college as an honour roll student.
I had a boyfriend who was dealing with severe...
Entrepreneurial Stress - A Healthy & Holistic Way to Respond
There is a push and pull to growth. We feel pulled to grow so that we can become people who do the amazing things we dream of doing and feel the amazing things we dream of feeling. And yet, the process of growth is a valley of internal obstacles. One of the obstacles that can show up in the valley is trauma. Life calls us to move through the trauma that has kept us coping rather than living, so that we can have space inside to make our dreams a reality.
As entrepreneurs - the wild animals we are - we choose an alternative path. Those of us who feel called to bring our gifts to the world through entrepreneurship choose a path of complex problems that become more complex with each stage of growth. We choose a path that requires emotional intelligence and leadership - a relational IQ that can allow us to meet the needs of the market, lead our teams and maintain our relationships with other people in our...