I had something to prove!

I didn’t want to be like my mom who was pure chaos walking and left nothing but destruction in her wake.

She was so uncontained and so wild and completely lacking any modicum of self-awareness.

As a kid I really just wanted to be normal.

I knew that I knew that I KNEW that I was not going to end up like my mom if I had anything to do with it.

So I constructed the image in my head of the successful put together woman I would one day become.

No longer an outsider.

No longer so different.

And I became that woman. And I’m so grateful for so many pieces of that.

And yet?

There was a part of me hidden - even from myself.

A part of me that was not fully alive.

And by part of me I mean the TRUE REAL me.

I hid behind being an expert on the nervous system - knowing the science and being so good at it. I hid behind my intellect. I wanted to be taken seriously. Seen as the consummate professional.

But yet? There was that other part of me that I had labelled...

So I woke up this morning brimming with gratitude for the integration and activation that's happening within me.

And I am just thinking about all the amazing people that have been divinely put on my path that planted seeds in my spirit.

And I had an overwhelming desire to share it all.

Well this is easily the most vulnerable - and longest live stream I have ever done.

This is the replay of the original stream on INSTA.

It's about what I’m going through and the people that brought me here…

Wow I was not expecting this to go on as long as it did - but it did!

And I was not expecting to be brought to tears - okay maybe I was lol! But not that much…

I share what I’m moving through and integrating and what is coming through me. I also share some of the key people along the way that have made such a difference in my life. Not all the key people of course but the ones that came to mind.

I talked about the deep feelings of self-disgust and self-loathing that kept me...

There was a time when I didn’t have my right mind - my sanity. As a teen you could have diagnosed me with reactive attachment disorder and severe depression and ADHD among other things.

I grew up in a very dysfunctional home. My mom suffers with paranoid schizophrenia and manic depression.

Her childhood was awful - she talks about being suicidal at 11.

She didn’t make her way to healing.

And when she had me, she struggled. And as a result she severely abused and neglected me. She also decided to homeschool me until I was 11.

Growing up in that situation took its toll on my developing brain and body. On the outside I adapted well as I was very smart and quite gifted as a kid. I learned how to perform in school and in church. I kept my home life a secret.

People who knew my mom knew something wasn’t right - but I felt a pressure to protect my parents and so I put on a happy face. As I got older I continued to perform well despite the inner turmoil.

But the body is not...

.What about receiving? 

…being carried, guided and supported by the flow, by God who is life itself.

To receive, you open your hands
Open your heart…

Versus?

Versus chasing after everything from your mind and your tight shoulders.

You don’t receive from working hard in your brain.

Braced up for impact all the while. Desiring more in your heart of hearts and at the same time thinking hard about how to get it.

Receiving is the deep down breath into the tummy and down into the ground.

Receiving is the letting go through the body and the full experience of surrender…

My journey with receiving has been quite the roller coaster.

Because letting go wasn’t something that came naturally to me…

My biology was wired for holding so tight and tighter and tighter and tighter until it hurt like hell and then holding on some more. Abuse and neglect will do that to a person.

First with relationships - then with money.

I chased after my parents love.
I twisted and...

He was just like my mom… 

In my early twenties I had a dumpster fire of a relationship filled with chaos and codependency. 

I was the savior and the good girl who was going to rescue my addict boyfriend and make him unbroken.

Have you ever been there?

Turns out it was me that was sick and twisted up from a childhood of abuse and stranger-than-fiction family dysfunction. 

My mother - the paranoid schizophrenic, violent, manic depressive tyrant. And my father, ever loyal to my mother and unable to get himself or me out of the situation.

When I was spat out into the world, I was driven, ambitious, high-performing and talented. I was also extremely unaware of just how much my childhood had marked me. 

I didn’t know I had brain damage from growing up in abuse and neglect. 

I didn’t know I was in the chronic freeze and had been my entire life.
I was a MESS - but I had no sweet clue about that. 

In...

Recently I went through something terrifying that would have absolutely taken me out before I built the nervous system that I have now.

AND I am so glad that I had the tools and knowledge to support me to get through it and keep me sane.

Fear & stress is part of the game when you’re an ambitious, high-performing entrepreneur. It’s part of life - there’s no way of getting around that!

But you CAN navigate fear in a way that leads to more capacity, more health and deeper purpose?

This episode is all about leaning into fear but with a nervous system spin!


Here’s what I cover:

• What is happening in your body when you feel fear and do it anyway?
• Is it true that everything you want is outside of your comfort zone? 
  
• The Body’s Fear/Stress Cycle and How to Interrupt it so you can overcome fear and 
  achieve your dreams
• Supplements that I recommend for times of edgy expansion and growth
• How to Support Your Physical Body to let go of stress and...

In this episode, the lovely Alana shares her experience of doing this nervous system work! 

We Discuss: 

• The difference between this work and other more talk and thought centred coaching and how she had to adjust to it
• How somatic work supported Alana to naturally begin taking care of her body and nourishing it with food (something she had been working on for a long time, that naturally clicked into place with this work)
• How the subtle, slow changes felt like a blossoming flower
• Alana's experience inside EHS Foundations and how that supported her to integrate 1-1 work deeper 
• AND LOTS MORE OF COURSE!

If you enjoy this episode, could you please leave a rate and review? It helps others find this work, and I so appreciate it. 

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In this episode on the podcast we are looking at energy management and how it relates to entrepreneurship and your nervous system. 

• I give you a quick run down on chronic freeze

• I share with you two key ways that your physical energy is impacted by chronic stress and trauma 

• And then I share 5 tools for managing your energy!

If you enjoy this episode - please share it and leave a review and help others find this work!

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Podcast Notes: 

Heal for Real Podcast Episode 88
Energy Management, Entrepreneurship & Your Nervous System

We are talking on the podcast today about energy! And I am not talking about spiritual or...

In this episode I am talking with an amazing renaissance woman who also happens to be a client of mine! Beth and I worked together for 6 months and she is here to share her experience and the surprising re-invigoration of her artistry that happened as a result.

In this conversation we talk about:
-The difference between thinking your way through something and feeling your way through something.
-How working with her nervous system helped her have space to stop fearing the anger of others
-How her boundaries have strengthened
-How Beth’s personal nervous system work changed her relationship with her mom

-Self-expression, truth and allowing people to have their own responses to your authenticity
-Being “good” and “bad”
And much more!

To see Beth’s art go to: https://www.bethknight.com/ 

To follow Beth on Instagram go to : https://www.instagram.com/mary.beth.knight/
To work with Shyla 1-1 go to: www.shylacash.com/work-with-me 

To follow...

‍Healthy Expression Helps Your Cells Repair Themselves! ‍

Self Expression Keeps You Healthy!

And I’m not just talking about emotional and spiritual health - I am talking about your physical health too! It allows for good flow within the body systems and actually promotes cellular repair. 

Healthy, authentic expression helps us attract safe connection and repel unsafe connection.

It’s what allows us to engage in conflict without harm.

And it makes it easier for people to feel a felt-sense of trust with you. 

As an entrepreneur and high-performer - healthy, authentic expression allows you to sell, lead teams effectively, and communicate with your market. 

It allows you to grow a business that encourages truthful two-way communication. 
 

It builds a culture of trust in your company.  

And it gives you vitality because you don’t feel the need to be someone you aren’t

Think about a time your self expression has been...