High-Performance, Hard Work & Trauma
I am reading Michael Dell’s awesome book - “Play Nice But Win”. And I love it. He tells his story of being quite a scrappy, resourceful entrepreneur since he was a teenager. The book zeroes in on the high-stakes transaction he successfully completed when he took his company private after being public. He did this because he wanted to make some big time changes within the company without being in the public eye.
WOOPH! Love that.
It’s thrilling and amazing.
And it’s got me thinking about what it takes to do the real deep hard work of bringing your big dreams to life in a healthy way.
There is nothing wrong with hard work!
Being an entrepreneur, of course there is some hard work required on the journey of building your dream life and business.
Having big dreams does require some effort.
Talk of trauma and the nervous system is on the rise in the coaching and personal development industry and on the one hand that’s great. More people becoming aware of trauma is what the world needs.
And, on the other hand, we want to make sure that if we are using words like trauma-informed that we are truly trauma-informed.
So let’s look at 3 key elements I’ve defined for a trauma-informed practitioner as well as some specific skills that are a foundational starting point for anyone working with trauma. I’ll also talk about how Embodied Healing Systems will help you learn and apply these elements and skills.
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WTF IS NERVOUS SYSTEM CAPACITY?!?!
What you can mentally push yourself to do is not necessarily what your nervous system has the capacity for.
And... what your clients can mentally push themselves to do is not necessarily what they have the capacity for.
What did you feel when you read those statements? Did they feel resonant, like an ah-ha moment?
Or did it feel a little disempowering, confusing? Take a moment to check in with how those statements landed for you in your body.
Now, let me elaborate.
***And, by the way you might want to grab a cup of tea for this read or even print this out because it's a little bit long but VERY important if you want to understand this concept of nervous system capacity.
First - what exactly is capacity from a nervous system perspective?
Or - as I said in the title of this post: WTF is nervous system capacity?!?!
Simply put - capacity is the amount of stress that we can hold and stay present to without having to disconnect from our bodies (by...
I was about 6 years into my healing journey when I discovered the role the nervous system plays in healing from trauma and chronic stress. By healing journey, I mean healing from a childhood of abuse and neglect. Side effects of being raised by a mom whose unresolved childhood trauma led to paranoid schizophrenia, NPD and manic depression.
My journey started with therapy. At around 18, I found myself in the office of an angel who helped me understand that my home was not normal. That it was, in fact, abusive. She gave me a check list for abuse and I checked off almost everything on it.
It was her that helped me realize I needed to move away from my parents home.
After that, things were not all well and good. I was a mess - and chose to put myself in messy relationships with messy people. I was dysfunctional inside. But I worked hard at my retail job, I participated in church leadership, and I did well in college as an honour roll student.
I had a boyfriend who was dealing with severe...
It's been a little over a month since I've recorded an episode and I am so happy to be back (and back with a BANG!). In this episode we're talking about toxic shame and how it relates to the fear of success in high-performers.
Here's What's Covered:
What is Toxic Shame
Where Does it Come From
How Does Toxic Shame Show Up
My Personal Experience With Toxic Shame
Toxic Shame & Fear of Success
Toxic Shame and Internalized Rage
How to Start Healing Toxic Shame
And, at the end I share a simple prayer for support in moving through it.
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Show Notes Below.
Toxic Shame & Fear of Success
This is a deep, and sort of heavy topic. But it’s very important and it’s not really understood enough in entrepreneurial spaces and leadership and mindset spaces. We talk about shame, but we don’t really...
In this short and sweet episode i'm sharing some of the evolution I'm going through, and sharing some snippets of my own story and journey. You'll love this bonus episode.
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In this week's episode, I'm talking about how fear, resistance and control are trauma responses. Once we become aware of this, we can begin to release the harmful imprints of living in fear, resistance and control at the level of our bodies. As we do this, we re-discover our own wholeness.
In this episode I'm talking about trauma responses.
I'm breaking down what they are, how they create a lack of health in our lives, and how we can gently change our internal state so that our trauma responses are LESS required, or not required at all.
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What is a Trauma Response?
First, a reminder of what trauma actually is. Trauma is too much, too fast, too soon.
Trauma is a shock to the system that has not been fully processed.
That means it gets stuck inside your body, creating a state of dysregulation and a lack of health. The lack of health occurs because in a moment of shock, our normal flow of life is interrupted by the shock of the danger or threat so that the body can use all of its resources to keep you...
What’s beautiful about the process of trauma healing is that it creates safety and resilience inside of you. That means you have a felt-sense of your own ability to be safe and secure within your own body. This balances your mental, spiritual, emotional and nervous system(s). Once that happens, you begin to unlock your own gifts and talents. When your base level state is a state of health and repair, you naturally discover your own success codes.
Everything that you have been through and healed from is part of you. It is inside of you and part of your story. Your brain and body, your cells and...