What is Self-Sabotage? 

Self-sabotage is a common phrase used in modern psychology and healing communities. It can be described as feeling a deep desire to do things that you know will be good, healthy and beneficial for you and for your life - but at the same time, and often unwillingly taking actions or inaction that prevents you from what is good, healthy and beneficial in your life. And may actually harm you.

An example - You know that it will be beneficial to your health to lose weight, but feel addicted to foods that cause health issues and weight gain. The food comforts you and you eat it even though in the long run it harms you, your goals, and your self-esteem and brings you shame. 
 

Self-Sabotage & The Human Condition
This is a very human issue. All humans have an area of life where this pattern of sabotage seems to eat away at us. Whether it is breaking patterns of addiction, creating new healthy habits, cultivating discipline, overcoming...

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For the believer - trauma recovery is a mind-renewal process that involves being sanctified by God's Word and His Truth just as much as it involves learning/re-learning life skills, stress management skills and stabilizing your nervous system! In this episode I am diving into the spiritual component of the trauma recovery journey by looking at: 

• How God's Word Makes the Crooked Places Straight in Your Heart
• The Corruption of the Human Heart  (How man can never fully grasp the heart of man - we need God for that)
• Double-Mindedness and Personality Instability (How God's Word gives us security and stability)
• Seeking Healing from the World First Rather than seeking the Lord first

My hope is that this episode stirs your faith to walk in Victory as a child of God - knowing first that you belong to the Lord as you recover from the pain of trauma. 

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 When it comes to trauma recovery of any kind (complex PTSD, PTSD, Attachment Trauma, Shock Trauma) - there is no magic pill.

However, when we use the RIGHT components together, in the right order, consistently, we can speed up our recovery.

Remember that trauma represents a lack of resources whether those resources be energy, attachment, nutrients, or essential minerals and nutrients. When we are dealing with trauma we are dealing with a body that has suffered under the weight of too much, too soon, too fast with too little resources, for too long.

So let's talk about one powerful, game-changing resource when it comes to trauma healing: Magnesium! 

What is magnesium?
Magnesium is a mineral - an essential nutrient for the health of the human body

It is required for nerve function, blood pressure regulation, blood pressure, making protein, bone & DNA (National Institute of Health). Most importantly, It is a primary mineral that is utilized during the stress response....

 I’ve got another awesome conversation with an incredible client for you this week on the Heal for Real podcast!

This beautiful interview with Sarah really encompasses why I even do this work. To help AMAZING people with inherent gifts and skills heal their lives and soar in the world. Sarah certainly is one of those amazing people. Anyone who knows Sarah knows that she is an absolute shining light and a born leader.

Her optimistic spirit really shines through everything she does.

Sarah is a Certified Leadership & Management Coach. She holds a Masters in Public Administration & is a Project Management Professional. Her personal 16-year professional adventure has led her to share the lessons she has learned about resilience and change. She mentors leaders in ANY transition or stage of growth.

Sarah came to work with me 1-1 after realising she had some stored trauma due to complications she experienced during the birth of her twins. On this episode, she shares...

I’m writing a memoir, and in that process I’ve been reflecting on lots of moments in my healing journey. On this episode of the podcast, I’m sharing one of those moments with you. An important time in my life 8 or 9 years ago when I healed the top layers of depression, freeze, and paranoid delusions. It was both a physical and spiritual experience. 

Enjoy!

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"'For I know the plans I have for you,' declares the Lord, 'plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you a hope and a future. '” — Jeremiah 29:11.

…..You were BORN to prosper!

As in it’s not a nice thing to have.
As in it’s what you came here to DO.

Supernova is the Spiritual Mastermind for Leaders and Entrepreneurs. It is 3 months of PURE healing and prosperity. It’s about you prospering from your heart in the HIGHEST most RADIANT expression of your gifts.

It is you dancing in the grace that comes from being willing to shed the next layer of fear and shame and show up in the world as your self, in your essence - believing that all that is required for you to prosper is to follow the call within your heart.

This is not just another money mastermind.

This is a prosperity CONTAINER which revolves around your personal healing and alignment.

This is about your soul’s expression, your deep healing and accessing the prosperity that is...

Oftentimes, I feel like a weak little girl.
And then I resist, and defend against the archetype of the small abused girl who just needed a mom.
And in my thrashing against her, she takes hold.
Chokes out my power.
And makes sure that I see. That I remember… she is me.

But she is only part of me.
It is in my resistance to her presence that I find myself at her beck and call on either side of the spectrum (resistant, defensive and rigid OR small and frail and unable to direct the flow of my own life).

The shadows take hold when we refuse to acknowledge their presence.

She is only part of me - she is neither bad nor good. Simply a neutral part of my emotional, physical and spiritual body which demands to be explored and most importantly… integrated. We all carry with us these fragile frail parts. And the first instinct is always to resist.

The stable, powerful adult woman seemingly has no need/time/energy to open the door to the fragile, unprocessed pieces of distant...

What EXACTLY does it take to break through resistance and shame?

The gap between here and there… the great divide… the dark forest… that thick foggy smog that must be traveled through to get to where you wanna go.

How exactly do you get there?
And… before you start moving - how do you deal with the blanket of resistance and shame that keeps you laying low below desire?

One. Day. At. A Time Darling.
That’s it.

You don’t swallow that beast with all its fire whole on day one. It would explode you. 

Instead.
You sit up, swing those legs over the bed. And do today’s work.
And today’s work is the absolute hardest to do isn’t it?

And what do I mean by work? I’m not talking about it in the traditional sense --- although maybe I am --- but what I really mean is the emotional and spiritual work. Going about the business of sorting out the chaos inside. Untangling that big heavy knot one string at a time.

Gently tugging.

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I cried while I was running today. When I first started seriously working out (swimming twice per day), I was on the cusp of some major breakthroughs in my life and I swam twice a day to cope with what I was losing (a codependent relationship, some unhealthy friendships, my own irresponsibility tendencies and emotional leeching). I didn’t know it then, but I was running from myself. It happened to be a rather healthy way to “escape” - or at least it seemed to be for me at the time. This was before I knew what I know now about nervous system healing, emotional scaffolding, titration, and the physiological survival response of trauma. I was doing what I could with what I had. I was trying to hold onto my core - or find my core self. Find my independence after being enmeshed with unhealthy parents and carrying that forward into my life as an adult with friendship and intimate relationship dynamics that mirrored the trauma bonds of my upbringing.

What I started...