I had something to prove!
I didn’t want to be like my mom who was pure chaos walking and left nothing but destruction in her wake.
She was so uncontained and so wild and completely lacking any modicum of self-awareness.
As a kid I really just wanted to be normal.
I knew that I knew that I KNEW that I was not going to end up like my mom if I had anything to do with it.
So I constructed the image in my head of the successful put together woman I would one day become.
No longer an outsider.
No longer so different.
And I became that woman. And I’m so grateful for so many pieces of that.
There was a part of me hidden - even from myself.
A part of me that was not fully alive.
And by part of me I mean the TRUE REAL me.
I hid behind being an expert on the nervous system - knowing the science and being so good at it. I hid behind my intellect. I wanted to be taken seriously. Seen as the consummate professional.
But yet? There was that other part of me that I had labelled...
There was a time when I didn’t have my right mind - my sanity. As a teen you could have diagnosed me with reactive attachment disorder and severe depression and ADHD among other things.
I grew up in a very dysfunctional home. My mom suffers with paranoid schizophrenia and manic depression.
Her childhood was awful - she talks about being suicidal at 11.
She didn’t make her way to healing.
And when she had me, she struggled. And as a result she severely abused and neglected me. She also decided to homeschool me until I was 11.
Growing up in that situation took its toll on my developing brain and body. On the outside I adapted well as I was very smart and quite gifted as a kid. I learned how to perform in school and in church. I kept my home life a secret.
People who knew my mom knew something wasn’t right - but I felt a pressure to protect my parents and so I put on a happy face. As I got older I continued to perform well despite the inner turmoil.
But the body is not...
.What about receiving?
…being carried, guided and supported by the flow, by God who is life itself.
To receive, you open your hands
Open your heart…
Versus chasing after everything from your mind and your tight shoulders.
You don’t receive from working hard in your brain.
Braced up for impact all the while. Desiring more in your heart of hearts and at the same time thinking hard about how to get it.
Receiving is the deep down breath into the tummy and down into the ground.
Receiving is the letting go through the body and the full experience of surrender…
My journey with receiving has been quite the roller coaster.
Because letting go wasn’t something that came naturally to me…
My biology was wired for holding so tight and tighter and tighter and tighter until it hurt like hell and then holding on some more. Abuse and neglect will do that to a person.
First with relationships - then with money.
I chased after my parents love.
I twisted and...
Buckle up for this conversation with a few of the most recent Embodied Healing Systems Graduates: Andrea Fleming, Denita Bremer & Amber Taylor.
Honestly the caliber of practitioners inside EHS is second to none and this conversation is a taste of the kind of work we do on the regular inside the School.
After all - this is a school for the deeper, smarter, more switched on practitioners.
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In this episode Carly shares her experience working together 1-1 for 6 months!
She talks about how it didn't feel fancy to invest in her life and nervous system because there wasn't a tangible result like there is when investing in business.
But ultimately, she fell in love with the work and experienced impact in both her business AND her life.
She also talks about her experience inside The School of Embodied Healing Systems and calls this work life-saving!
You will LOVE this candid conversation.
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Recently I went through something terrifying that would have absolutely taken me out before I built the nervous system that I have now.
AND I am so glad that I had the tools and knowledge to support me to get through it and keep me sane.
Fear & stress is part of the game when you’re an ambitious, high-performing entrepreneur. It’s part of life - there’s no way of getting around that!
But you CAN navigate fear in a way that leads to more capacity, more health and deeper purpose?
This episode is all about leaning into fear but with a nervous system spin!
Here’s what I cover:
In this episode, I am talking with my client - Natalie Steen about her experience inside EHS Foundations!
Natalie is a health coach who helps restore women's vitality, drive, and appearance, so that gals 40 years and better, have a body that feels good to live in again!
In this episode we talk about
What she learned about herself
Her favourite tools from EHS Foundations
How the tools are still impacting her life now
How she was able to increase her client conversion rates using the tools she learned inside EHS Foundations
Enjoy the episode!
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When it comes to trauma recovery of any kind (complex PTSD, PTSD, Attachment Trauma, Shock Trauma) - there is no magic pill.
However, when we use the RIGHT components together, in the right order, consistently, we can speed up our recovery.
Remember that trauma represents a lack of resources whether those resources be energy, attachment, nutrients, or essential minerals and nutrients. When we are dealing with trauma we are dealing with a body that has suffered under the weight of too much, too soon, too fast with too little resources, for too long.
So let's talk about one powerful, game-changing resource when it comes to trauma healing: Magnesium!
What is magnesium?
Magnesium is a mineral - an essential nutrient for the health of the human body
It is required for nerve function, blood pressure regulation, blood pressure, making protein, bone & DNA (National Institute of Health). Most importantly, It is a primary mineral that is utilized during the stress response....
In this episode I am talking with an amazing renaissance woman who also happens to be a client of mine! Beth and I worked together for 6 months and she is here to share her experience and the surprising re-invigoration of her artistry that happened as a result.
In this conversation we talk about:
-The difference between thinking your way through something and feeling your way through something.
-How working with her nervous system helped her have space to stop fearing the anger of others
-How her boundaries have strengthened
-How Beth’s personal nervous system work changed her relationship with her mom
-Self-expression, truth and allowing people to have their own responses to your authenticity
-Being “good” and “bad”
And much more!
To see Beth’s art go to: https://www.bethknight.com/