This week on the podcast I'm sharing with you the foundational paradigm for this work I do! And that paradigm is the hope and potential of repair when it comes to trauma, our bodies and even our communities and our world. 

I am sharing with you this idea in contrast to what I believe is a culture of management. 

I share what the fundamental differences are between a paradigm of repair and management. And I also share about how a management paradigm can be damaging over long periods of time for the nervous system. 

I get a little philosophical in this episode - because I believe that we as practitioners and as people who care about our lives and communities need to be thinking about the paradigms and philosophies that we are bringing to our world.

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WTF IS NERVOUS SYSTEM CAPACITY?!?! 

What you can mentally push yourself to do is not necessarily what your nervous system has the capacity for.

And... what your clients can mentally push themselves to do is not necessarily what they have the capacity for.

What did you feel when you read those statements? Did they feel resonant, like an ah-ha moment?

Or did it feel a little disempowering, confusing? Take a moment to check in with how those statements landed for you in your body.

Now, let me elaborate.

***And, by the way you might want to grab a cup of tea for this read or even print this out because it's a little bit long but VERY important if you want to understand this concept of nervous system capacity.

First - what exactly is capacity from a nervous system perspective?

Or - as I said in the title of this post: WTF is nervous system capacity?!?!

Simply put - capacity is the amount of stress that we can hold and stay present to without having to disconnect from our bodies (by...

Interview With Annabelle

On this episode of the podcast I have another client interview for you!

This is a conversation with one of my beautiful clients, Annabelle Sorensen. She is a life coach for young adults looking to live happier and more fulfilling lives.

Annabelle came to work with me after her father’s sudden passing to work with her nervous system to process the grief of losing him.

In this conversation, we talk about:

The mind-body connection in processing grief
Showing up authentically in your family

How working with your own nervous system can make family relationships healthier and more fulfilling for you

Religion
Perfectionism

And lots more!

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This Week on the Podcast I have none other than the formidable Amy Acker. Amy is a Psychotherapist, integrative life coach, published author & poet. 

Amy has been a client of mine for over a year and it’s been such a joy to be on the journey with her. She is a beautiful and intelligent woman who holds so much wisdom.

In this interview Amy talks about:
Her experience being in a deep functional freeze during the beginning of her journey while also being VERY high-functioning.
Her journey of growing her nervous system capacity & some of the resistance that showed up along the way.
The difference between understanding the nervous system on a mental and intellectual level and connecting to your own nervous system and where it is in its own process.

Her experience inside The Embodied Healing Systems Certification 

I know you’ll enjoy this episode.

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Entrepreneurial Stress - A Healthy & Holistic Way to Respond 

There is a push and pull to growth. We feel pulled to grow so that we can become people who do the amazing things we dream of doing and feel the amazing things we dream of feeling. And yet, the process of growth is a valley of internal obstacles. One of the obstacles that can show up in the valley is trauma. Life calls us to move through the trauma that has kept us coping rather than living, so that we can have space inside to make our dreams a reality.

As entrepreneurs - the wild animals we are - we choose an alternative path. Those of us who feel called to bring our gifts to the world through entrepreneurship choose a path of complex problems that become more complex with each stage of growth. We choose a path that requires emotional intelligence and leadership - a relational IQ that can allow us to meet the needs of the market, lead our teams and maintain our relationships with other people in our...

In this episode of the heal for real podcast, I am talking about trauma and choice.

I discuss what trauma is - and how my understanding of trauma allows me to have a very pragmatic and optimistic view of healing.

I also discuss the role of choice in healing and why I believe that - for entrepreneurs and high performers - understanding trauma and healing makes life and business so much better.

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Growing up in a dysfunctional, chaotic family can create a feeling of chaos inside.  This feeling of chaos represents the nervous system and emotional dysregulation within us as a result of trauma.  We get stuck in chaos cycles when we are acting out of this nervous system dysregulation without knowing it, resulting in unwanted or unhealthy consequences to our lives. 

In this episode, I share what Chaos Cycles Are, How Dysfunctional Families Create Cycles of Chaos and How We Can Begin to Move From Chaos in Harmony Inside.

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What is a Chaos Cycle?
-Unresolved trauma within the brain and body that drives us to recreate experiences that are unhealthy or unwanted. Basically These are patterns in our lives that are resulting from nervous system and brain dysregulation and create a lack of harmony and health within us. Whether that’s our internal world or external world.

-This is an overwhelming feeling of chaos inside (survival energy/traumatic...

We can't heal trauma from trauma responses, and so it's so important that we understand that our responses to trauma are often so ingrained and imprinted that we don't recognize them as trauma responses. We think they (our responses) are who we are. But this is a trauma paradigm. And so, to heal, we move into a whole new reality, we move into the paradigm of healing. 

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Paradigm = a typical example or pattern of something; a model.

This is really what people are talking about when they’re talking about mindset - your mindset is your paradigm, it’s the patterns that are running beneath the surface. And I also believe in heart set which is like your emotional state because they inform each other and influence each other.

It is so essential and so important that when you’re healing that you focus on your internal mindset and heartset - that you work on...

In today's podcast, my client Valerie Martinez of Valerie's Revival joins me to talk about some of the work we did together in coaching, her experience cultivating grounded spirituality, the effects of trauma on physical health, perfectionism, living authentically and so much more. 

You can find Valerie on instagram at:
https://www.instagram.com/valerierevival/ 
and https://www.instagram.com/valerierevivalpodcast/ 

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I cried while I was running today. When I first started seriously working out (swimming twice per day), I was on the cusp of some major breakthroughs in my life and I swam twice a day to cope with what I was losing (a codependent relationship, some unhealthy friendships, my own irresponsibility tendencies and emotional leeching). I didn’t know it then, but I was running from myself. It happened to be a rather healthy way to “escape” - or at least it seemed to be for me at the time. This was before I knew what I know now about nervous system healing, emotional scaffolding, titration, and the physiological survival response of trauma. I was doing what I could with what I had. I was trying to hold onto my core - or find my core self. Find my independence after being enmeshed with unhealthy parents and carrying that forward into my life as an adult with friendship and intimate relationship dynamics that mirrored the trauma bonds of my upbringing.

What I started...