Learning to Trust the Lord
The thing God has been dealing with me most about since I gave my life to Christ last year has been trust.
Trust is a scary dirty word for a lot of us.
Add in a childhood wrought with abuse and neglect or any kind of relational or spiritual trauma for that matter and you compound on the challenge.
In my years of personal trauma recovery, nervous system repair, and formal training - I’ve learned and experienced a lot about the body and trust.
About how the nervous system can be wired for a kind of closed off hyper-independence in which we construct a life where we protect ourselves from the need to trust others for anything.
How the nervous system can learn to be drawn to (and even cling to) what is unsafe in relationships and deeply untrustworthy.
How we can be so cut off from our God-given intuition that we can’t even FEEL the instincts let alone discern and trust them.
How we can feel terrified to trust that which is actually...
Life force energy, survival energy, repression, raw expression!
Most people are repressed. It’s just the truth.
Most people are terrified of the absolute full force of their life energy.
Especially if you’ve spent a life time being pushed back, held back and then doing it to yourself on repeat without even knowing it.
It’s not your fault.
Other people are scared of your life energy too.
So there’s another reason to mask and repress it and suppress it until your bones ache and you’re so bored with yourself that you wanna self sabotage to at least feel alive in the chaos.
The only problem? The more you repress the more you self-destruct.
The body wasn’t designed for that.
It was designed for expression - it was designed for flow. The body is an electrical conductor that carries energy to your organs, your DNA, your brain stem and every cell in your body.
This is trauma - the survival energy pent up and stored in your body that keeps your from...
.What about receiving?
…being carried, guided and supported by the flow, by God who is life itself.
To receive, you open your hands
Open your heart…
Versus?
Versus chasing after everything from your mind and your tight shoulders.
You don’t receive from working hard in your brain.
Braced up for impact all the while. Desiring more in your heart of hearts and at the same time thinking hard about how to get it.
Receiving is the deep down breath into the tummy and down into the ground.
Receiving is the letting go through the body and the full experience of surrender…
My journey with receiving has been quite the roller coaster.
Because letting go wasn’t something that came naturally to me…
My biology was wired for holding so tight and tighter and tighter and tighter until it hurt like hell and then holding on some more. Abuse and neglect will do that to a person.
First with relationships - then with money.
I chased after my parents love.
I twisted and...
He was just like my mom…
In my early twenties I had a dumpster fire of a relationship filled with chaos and codependency.
I was the savior and the good girl who was going to rescue my addict boyfriend and make him unbroken.
Have you ever been there?
Turns out it was me that was sick and twisted up from a childhood of abuse and stranger-than-fiction family dysfunction.
My mother - the paranoid schizophrenic, violent, manic depressive tyrant. And my father, ever loyal to my mother and unable to get himself or me out of the situation.
When I was spat out into the world, I was driven, ambitious, high-performing and talented. I was also extremely unaware of just how much my childhood had marked me.
I didn’t know I had brain damage from growing up in abuse and neglect.
I didn’t know I was in the chronic freeze and had been my entire life.
I was a MESS - but I had no sweet clue about that.
In...
Recently I went through something terrifying that would have absolutely taken me out before I built the nervous system that I have now.
AND I am so glad that I had the tools and knowledge to support me to get through it and keep me sane.
Fear & stress is part of the game when you’re an ambitious, high-performing entrepreneur. It’s part of life - there’s no way of getting around that!
But you CAN navigate fear in a way that leads to more capacity, more health and deeper purpose?
This episode is all about leaning into fear but with a nervous system spin!
Here’s what I cover:
In this episode, I am talking with my client - Natalie Steen about her experience inside EHS Foundations!
Natalie is a health coach who helps restore women's vitality, drive, and appearance, so that gals 40 years and better, have a body that feels good to live in again!
In this episode we talk about
What she learned about herself
Her favourite tools from EHS Foundations
How the tools are still impacting her life now
How she was able to increase her client conversion rates using the tools she learned inside EHS Foundations
Enjoy the episode!
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This week on the podcast I'm sharing with you the foundational paradigm for this work I do! And that paradigm is the hope and potential of repair when it comes to trauma, our bodies and even our communities and our world.
I am sharing with you this idea in contrast to what I believe is a culture of management.
I share what the fundamental differences are between a paradigm of repair and management. And I also share about how a management paradigm can be damaging over long periods of time for the nervous system.
I get a little philosophical in this episode - because I believe that we as practitioners and as people who care about our lives and communities need to be thinking about the paradigms and philosophies that we are bringing to our world.
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WTF IS NERVOUS SYSTEM CAPACITY?!?!
What you can mentally push yourself to do is not necessarily what your nervous system has the capacity for.
And... what your clients can mentally push themselves to do is not necessarily what they have the capacity for.
What did you feel when you read those statements? Did they feel resonant, like an ah-ha moment?
Or did it feel a little disempowering, confusing? Take a moment to check in with how those statements landed for you in your body.
Now, let me elaborate.
***And, by the way you might want to grab a cup of tea for this read or even print this out because it's a little bit long but VERY important if you want to understand this concept of nervous system capacity.
First - what exactly is capacity from a nervous system perspective?
Or - as I said in the title of this post: WTF is nervous system capacity?!?!
Simply put - capacity is the amount of stress that we can hold and stay present to without having to disconnect from our bodies (by...
Interview With Annabelle
On this episode of the podcast I have another client interview for you!
This is a conversation with one of my beautiful clients, Annabelle Sorensen. She is a life coach for young adults looking to live happier and more fulfilling lives.
Annabelle came to work with me after her father’s sudden passing to work with her nervous system to process the grief of losing him.
In this conversation, we talk about:
The mind-body connection in processing grief
Showing up authentically in your family
How working with your own nervous system can make family relationships healthier and more fulfilling for you
Religion
Perfectionism
And lots more!
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