He was just like my mom…
In my early twenties I had a dumpster fire of a relationship filled with chaos and codependency.
I was the savior and the good girl who was going to rescue my addict boyfriend and make him unbroken.
Have you ever been there?
Turns out it was me that was sick and twisted up from a childhood of abuse and stranger-than-fiction family dysfunction.
My mother - the paranoid schizophrenic, violent, manic depressive tyrant. And my father, ever loyal to my mother and unable to get himself or me out of the situation.
When I was spat out into the world, I was driven, ambitious, high-performing and talented. I was also extremely unaware of just how much my childhood had marked me.
I didn’t know I had brain damage from growing up in abuse and neglect.
I didn’t know I was in the chronic freeze and had been my entire life.
I was a MESS - but I had no sweet clue about that.
Recently I went through something terrifying that would have absolutely taken me out before I built the nervous system that I have now.
AND I am so glad that I had the tools and knowledge to support me to get through it and keep me sane.
Fear & stress is part of the game when you’re an ambitious, high-performing entrepreneur. It’s part of life - there’s no way of getting around that!
But you CAN navigate fear in a way that leads to more capacity, more health and deeper purpose?
This episode is all about leaning into fear but with a nervous system spin!
Here’s what I cover:
In this episode I'm talking about a seemingly "heavy topic". I'm sharing with you the cycle of self-alienation which stems from an over-active toxic inner critic. I offer insights on the endless cycle of hating ourselves and catching ourselves in a double-bind and where this comes from. I also discuss how to become aware of this cycle happening in your own life and how to break-free.
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Self-Alienation is a concept that I’ve been thinking about and meditating and pondering and really looking to take all my knowledge and my energetic imprinting about it and my somatic experience with it and and externalize it and really get it out into the world in a powerful way for you all because I really really have a lot of experience with it and have done SOOOO much healing deeply in my own body mind and soul around it. And I’ve been doing a lot of...
In today's podcast I talk about what it means to build resilience. I talk about what it means to build emotional resilience, and some common misconceptions/myths about what resilience is.
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Resilience is the ability to bounce back. Move on. Get on with your life.
Resilience is an Emotional Skill that can be built. I like to think that people who have dealt with trauma actually have tremendous capacity to build resilience because of what we have been through. And we think what we have been through disqualifies us - but I really think it qualifies us for some tremendous transcendence, leadership, spiritual gifts if you’re into that kind of thing, as well as empathy, discernment etc - listen to how you think about trauma for more on that.
What Resilience Is:
Connecting to our emotions
Moving through emotions
Managing our own internal states
Recognizing when we need support and...
Whose responsibility is it to bear the weight of your life?
We're getting philosophical in this episode to discuss one of the most important universal laws and its application to healing and transforming your life from the ground up.
To me, there is absolutely no recovery from childhood abuse and neglect and trauma without spiritual power. They simply co-exist together. Because everything is everything - the body, the spirit, the psyche, the emotional body… everything IS everything.
Ya.. but WHAT IS spiritual power EXACTLY?
Well… it’s the thing that carried you through the horrors you survived- for one.
But also, it’s the thing that is ACTUALLY going to move your life forward beyond survival and into abundance, joy and most importantly receiving love.
And I’m not talking about the soggy weak spirituality of fake love and light which pretends everything is okay behind glossy dissociated eyes.
I’m talking about the spiritual power that comes from integrating the WHOLE thing. From your head down to your toes, and from your toes back up to your head. Because spirituality without connection to the body is the kind of spirituality that actually perpetuates the...
In this video, I'm talking about a concept called "Functional Healing".
Functional Healing is my belief that life doesn't have to stop in order for you to heal and make powerful change. You can build healing into your lifestyle and see improvements in emotional regulation, performance, and behaviour as you go.
What is Emotional Health?
In this video I'm breaking down Emotional Health. I'm talking about what it is, and three essential pillars to building it:
1. Taking Responsibility for Your Life
2. Feeling/Experiencing Your Emotions
3. Loving and Caring For Yourself
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This week's episode is the beginning of a three part series on Time and Trauma.
This is the first instalment of the series and it's all about the past.
Listen to the episode to hear my unique perspective on healing from the past as it relates to trauma. You've never heard it taught this way before.
Show Transcript Below:
Time and Trauma
Hello - welcome to episode 15 of the podcast i’m so happy to be here with you all. And so happy that you’re listening and benefiting from this work. I want to ask a favour of you - if you like this podcast and you’re enjoying my work - it would mean the world to me if you could leave me a review on iTunes. You can do it right from your phone and it will help other people find this work and allow the reach of this show to reach others who need some help and support. I would greatly appreciate that so thank you so much.
So - today is going to be the first in a series of 3 episodes that I am doing about time and...