In this episode I am talking with an amazing renaissance woman who also happens to be a client of mine! Beth and I worked together for 6 months and she is here to share her experience and the surprising re-invigoration of her artistry that happened as a result.

In this conversation we talk about:
-The difference between thinking your way through something and feeling your way through something.
-How working with her nervous system helped her have space to stop fearing the anger of others
-How her boundaries have strengthened
-How Beth’s personal nervous system work changed her relationship with her mom

-Self-expression, truth and allowing people to have their own responses to your authenticity
-Being “good” and “bad”
And much more!

To see Beth’s art go to: https://www.bethknight.com/ 

To follow Beth on Instagram go to : https://www.instagram.com/mary.beth.knight/
To work with Shyla 1-1 go to: www.shylacash.com/work-with-me 

To follow...

‍Healthy Expression Helps Your Cells Repair Themselves! ‍

Self Expression Keeps You Healthy!

And I’m not just talking about emotional and spiritual health - I am talking about your physical health too! It allows for good flow within the body systems and actually promotes cellular repair. 

Healthy, authentic expression helps us attract safe connection and repel unsafe connection.

It’s what allows us to engage in conflict without harm.

And it makes it easier for people to feel a felt-sense of trust with you. 

As an entrepreneur and high-performer - healthy, authentic expression allows you to sell, lead teams effectively, and communicate with your market. 

It allows you to grow a business that encourages truthful two-way communication. 
 

It builds a culture of trust in your company.  

And it gives you vitality because you don’t feel the need to be someone you aren’t

Think about a time your self expression has been...

High-Performance, Hard Work & Trauma

I am reading Michael Dell’s awesome book - “Play Nice But Win”. And I love it. He tells his story of being quite a scrappy, resourceful entrepreneur since he was a teenager. The book zeroes in on the high-stakes transaction he successfully completed when he took his company private after being public. He did this because he wanted to make some big time changes within the company without being in the public eye.

‍Risk,

‍Challenge

‍High-stakes

‍Pressure.

WOOPH! Love that.

It’s thrilling and amazing.

And it’s got me thinking about what it takes to do the real deep hard work of bringing your big dreams to life in a healthy way.

There is nothing wrong with hard work!

Being an entrepreneur, of course there is some hard work required on the journey of building your dream life and business.

Having big dreams does require some effort.

Anyone telling...

It's been a little over a month since I've recorded an episode and I am so happy to be back (and back with a BANG!). In this episode we're talking about toxic shame and how it relates to the fear of success in high-performers. 

Here's What's Covered:
What is Toxic Shame
Where Does it Come From
How Does Toxic Shame Show Up
My Personal Experience With Toxic Shame
Toxic Shame & Fear of Success
Toxic Shame and Internalized Rage
How to Start Healing Toxic Shame

And, at the end I share a simple prayer for support in moving through it. 

Enjoy! 

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Show Notes Below.

Toxic Shame & Fear of Success

Intro 

This is a deep, and sort of heavy topic. But it’s very important and it’s not really understood enough in entrepreneurial spaces and leadership and mindset  spaces. We talk about shame, but we don’t really...

In this week's episode, I'm talking about how fear, resistance and control are trauma responses. Once we become aware of this, we can begin to release the harmful imprints of living in fear, resistance and control at the level of our bodies. As we do this, we re-discover our own wholeness. 

In this episode I'm talking about trauma responses. 

I'm breaking down what they are, how they create a lack of health in our lives, and how we can gently change our internal state so that our trauma responses are LESS required, or not required at all. 

Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/traumahealingforhighperformers 
Work With Me: www.shylacash.com/workwithme
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Shownotes: https://www.shylacash.com/blog/ghc60

Shownotes Below:

What is a Trauma Response?

First, a reminder of what trauma actually is. Trauma is too much, too fast, too soon. 

Trauma is a shock to the system that has not been fully processed. 

That means it gets stuck inside your body, creating a state of dysregulation and a lack of health. The lack of health occurs because in a moment of shock, our normal flow of life is interrupted by the shock of the danger or threat so that the body can use all of its resources to keep you...

4 Areas to Focus on for a Life of Healing, Success & Alignment - Part 2 - Your True Work

Yesterday was about the first area of focus -  Trauma Healing (read yesterday's blog here).  Now that we’ve covered the importance of making sure your roots are in a state of repair, we’re moving on to the second area - Your True Work. 

What’s beautiful about the process of trauma healing is that it creates safety and resilience inside of you. That means you have a felt-sense of your own ability to be safe and secure within your own body.  This balances your mental, spiritual, emotional and nervous system(s). Once that happens, you begin to unlock your own gifts and talents. When your base level state is a state of health and repair, you naturally discover your own success codes.  

Everything that you have been through and healed from  is part of you. It is inside of you and part of your story. Your brain and body, your cells and...

My work is about bringing it all together. 

Deep Healing & Aligned Success are not one dimensional. 

You are a system within systems as powerful human being. 

Creating true freedom depends on looking at this Axis of Healing and Success. 

And being reverent and respectful of all elements of you. 

Each element doesn’t necessarily have to have equal focus, depending on where you are in your journey you may be placing specific focus on one or two… and as we become masters of our own inner sanctum, we begin to learn how to balance them, and direct focus at the right ones for us for where we are on our timeline.  

This modality moves beyond black and white thinking or one-size fits all and into an integrated approach.

To me, if we are talking about success, we are talking about releasing the trauma of age-old conditioning within all of our systems. They work together. And, if we are talking about trauma healing, we must...

• The Originals - Adam Grant (this is required reading in one of the masterminds I'm in with my coach)
• Polyvagal Theory in Therapy - Deb Dana
• In the Realm of Hungry Ghosts - Gabor Mate
• Scattered Minds - Gabor Mate
• Lost Connections - Johann Hari
• The Great Work of Your Life - Stephen Cope
• Why Zebras Don't Get Ulcers - Robert M Sapolsky
• Tao of Fully Feeling - Pete Walker
• Behave - Robert M Sapolsky
• The Magician's Way - William Whitecloud

In this episode I'm talking about a seemingly "heavy topic". I'm sharing with you the cycle of self-alienation which stems from an over-active toxic inner critic. I offer insights on the endless cycle of hating ourselves and catching ourselves in a double-bind and where this comes from. I also discuss how to become aware of this cycle happening in your own life and how to break-free. 

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SHOW NOTES BELOW:

Self-Alienation is a concept that I’ve been thinking about and meditating and pondering and really looking to take all my knowledge and my energetic imprinting about it and my somatic experience with it and and externalize it and really get it out into the world in a powerful way for you all because I really really have a lot of experience with it and have done SOOOO much healing deeply in my own body mind and soul around it. And I’ve been doing a lot of...