This week I am talking to my client, Stephanie Rosenfield, Mom coach for moms who want to stop losing their shit and start enjoying motherhood! Steph is hilarious and has overcome so much in her life. Her commitment to her personal healing, growth and development is so inspiring. And, her deep passion for her incredible work is truly FELT!
In this episode we talk about:
What Steph has found most valuable about this nervous system work
What Steph found most surprising about this work
Self-Compassion as it relates to accepting the lasting impact of trauma
Integrating mindset work with body work to create a felt-sense of lasting change
Getting away from the “shoulds” and moving into acceptance when it comes to emotions
And lots more!
Enjoy the episode!
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Four Areas to Focus on to Create a Life of Healing, Success, and Alignment.
Today, we'll discuss the first of these four areas: Trauma-Healing.
This is one area that most ambitious, high-performing people tend to avoid. But the truth is that all humans have experienced trauma to varying degrees at one point or another. Trauma is simply too much, too soon, too fast, for our processing abilities at the time (mental, spiritual, emotional, physical). And, all humans have the ability to heal.
Trauma healing is first about restoring and creating a sense of stability, safety and security inside of ourselves. If you’re familiar with the chakra systems (energy centres) , the root chakra is the place where our physical body makes contact with life itself. I think this is helpful...
It's impossible to look at addiction without seeing the overlap with trauma.
In this episode, I talk with Jeff Simone, He is a Doctor of Pharmacy with a focus on how Fitness and Health help the addicted brain. Our conversation touches on the link between trauma and addiction, the slow pace of bringing the science of trauma into the addiction recovery conversation, spirituality and tons more.
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In today's podcast, my client Valerie Martinez of Valerie's Revival joins me to talk about some of the work we did together in coaching, her experience cultivating grounded spirituality, the effects of trauma on physical health, perfectionism, living authentically and so much more.
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How you think about trauma determines whether you will heal or not. I'm sharing with you some of the most common ineffective thoughts about trauma, and some alternative ways to think about it.
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Let’s talk enmeshment.
If you know, you know.
When you grow up in a pathological home one of the most painful and terrorizing realizations is the realization that you have been parentified - made into the emotional parent of your home. Taking on responsibility that was never yours. And all the while, without you even noticing your every need went ignored and even punished.
The emotionally immature parent hates to see the reflection of their inability. And so, they will often emotionally punish if you show how their abuse has taken its toll on you.
Instead of seeing YOU and meeting your emotional needs, your parent made you responsible for meeting theirs.
In abusive, pathological homes - the caregivers/parents are emotionally immature. They struggle to see their kiddos as beings in need of selfless love and care. Their kids trigger their own subconscious imprinting of shame, neediness, and trauma. And, being incapable/unwilling of...
You’re not the pressure and internal dialogue inside your head.
You’re not in the past. And... You’re not destined to eat only the crumbs and scraps of life.
EVEN if that’s what your childhood experience was like.
The imprints of trauma = get through the day, the hour. SURVIVE.
This is why most who grew up in pathological families have a thought/emotion loop that runs something like this:
“There’s not enough time.”
“There’s not enough money.”
“There’s not enough energy”
The system is churning as if we were still living in the danger and threat of abusive neglectful families.
And as this churn continues, we end up pushing away, running away from, or avoiding what we truly WANT, what we truly DESIRE and LONG for out of life.
We never experienced the safety of more than enough and so we believe it will never be safe to experience it.
Take trauma off it’s pedestal baby.
Stop worshipping it.
Trauma is part of the human experience. EVERYONE will experience at some point.
It’s terrifying, awful, and scary - but you know what is more awe-inspiring and powerful than trauma?
The HUMAN SPIRIT.
Specifically - YOUR human spirit!
Your body is designed to help you get through THE WORST.
So many of the natural human experiences are inherently traumatic.
Birth and death being two of the mains.
Trauma simply means too much, too soon, too fast. Something that took over your life energy and harnessed it to simply get you through it. TO SURVIVE it. Your body was made to HELP you survive it.
Those of us who experienced that at the hands of parents/caregivers? Sure - we went through the tough shit at very young ages. It was hard. It was scary. It was terrifying. And it was tragic.
But you were actually MADE to overcome...
Whose responsibility is it to bear the weight of your life?
We're getting philosophical in this episode to discuss one of the most important universal laws and its application to healing and transforming your life from the ground up.
Oftentimes, I feel like a weak little girl.
And then I resist, and defend against the archetype of the small abused girl who just needed a mom.
And in my thrashing against her, she takes hold.
Chokes out my power.
And makes sure that I see. That I remember… she is me.
But she is only part of me.
It is in my resistance to her presence that I find myself at her beck and call on either side of the spectrum (resistant, defensive and rigid OR small and frail and unable to direct the flow of my own life).
The shadows take hold when we refuse to acknowledge their presence.
She is only part of me - she is neither bad nor good. Simply a neutral part of my emotional, physical and spiritual body which demands to be explored and most importantly… integrated. We all carry with us these fragile frail parts. And the first instinct is always to resist.
The stable, powerful adult woman seemingly has no need/time/energy to open the door to the fragile, unprocessed pieces of distant...