Repairing Relational Trauma

At its core, repairing relational trauma as in complex and childhood trauma (including family dysfunction) requires intimacy. New experiences with intimacy and being seen in new and safe ways.
That’s messy business! 🥰
It FEELS messy and chaotic. It’s not something you can mindset your way into - or intellectualize or talk around.
Sure there’s some mindset involved - but the actual healing and renegotiation work is body stuff. Plain and simple.
The work I do with clients is about tapping into those intimacy and relational patterns at their core.
I work with super smart, ambitious, talented tender hearted people who have been able to figure ALOT of things out with their minds and mindset, and even some emotional work.
They’ve built lives they are proud of and thankful for and accomplish more than most - others wonder how they can do it all….
And yet?
They still have pockets of life that feel mysteriously challenging.
For example:
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Trauma Patterns and our Physiology

As you age, working with trauma patterns becomes more and more important. Especially if you’re an ambitious, high performing person who wants to, and indeed IS doing BIG stuff in the world!
Why? 😮
For most of us, our bodies move into trauma patterns unconsciously when we are young, adapting to both big and little stressors.
These stressors, if not dealt with properly, create changes in our cellular function, nervous system and DNA - but young bodies are naturally faster at keeping up with the oxidative stress.
But as we move into adulthood and beyond, The physical energy required to push the patterns away or avoid them takes an increasing toll on your cells and biological functions, as well as your executive functioning.
Meaning your body needs more and more energy to do the same things, and the pushing and avoiding becomes less and less available - and can show up in ways you wouldn’t expect (including chronic illness, brain fog, brain inflammation and more)...
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Life is Always Calling us Forward

✍🏾Struggle. Talent. Art. Performance. Trauma.
Working with high performers who are talented, gifted and skillful - helping them on their healing journey - PLUS my own fascination with work and what it means for us as humans (hello Generator 5/2 Human Design) always has me thinking about these things.
The pain of life and its relationship to our work.
The age-old idea seems to be true that most of our gifts emerge initially from a place of pain or need. This is why I believe we adore superheroes - mostly mere mortals whose powers were born through tragedy or pain.
What I am particularly interested as a healing and alignment coach to excellent people who love to excel, contribute and succeed - people who feel CALLED to a certain work in the world - is how we can evolve our relationship to the work we do.
Acknowledging that much of the birth of talents and gifts happened in the dark places.
Because what I see happen over and over is that the gift saves us when it’s...
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Are our Patterns really Mental?

Most of our patterns are not mental 🎤
This is especially true with patterns that are frustrating, confusing, chaotic, painful or difficult for you to change (ahem… ♥️t r a u m a)
There are mental COMPONENTS to patterns.
And indeed it helps to conceptualize them sometimes or to change our thinking about the pattern itself.
For example - if you have a pattern which you believe cannot change, it will help to slowly shift your idea to the possibility that it might or could potentially change.
But for the most part, our patterns live inside us in ways that are initially beyond our conscious control until we can get into the body to initiate an opening.
That’s why when you become aware of something it doesn’t immediately change.
Because there are physiological & biological (physical) as well as spiritual components to the patterns we carry with us - both good and bad.
When you’re wanting to change a pattern there are a couple things to look at:
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[PODCAST EPISODE 69] - ACCEPTING THE IMPACT OF CHILDHOOD TRAUMA

Accepting the Impact of Childhood Trauma

Accepting the impact of trauma is the most important step in the healing journey:

 

What Does it mean to accept the impact of trauma?
To become aware of and address the longstanding physical, emotional and mental effects of traumatic experiences. To make the journey back into the body and begin the process of discharging chronic stress so the body can move itself into a state of repair and regeneration.

 

I have worked with A LOT of high performers. And one thing I have noticed is that accepting the impact of trauma is VERY challenging. I experienced this myself early in my healing journey. There’s a protective denial that unconsciously forms around the pain of the past. 

 

And we unconsciously look away from these painful, shocking or terrorizing experiences that have happened to us. This is partly because this deep understanding of trauma and what it actually IS is very new - it’s very cutting edge. And so...

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You are a Divine Being!

The human body is a miracle...
You are a divine being.
I simply refuse to subscribe to the idea that all the ailments and issues plaguing our modern world are random.
It's not how nature works.
There is rhythm. There is harmony. There is a system in place.
We once knew this, but we have forgotten.
And now, The Divine and all of nature is asking us to remember - showing us clues.
The human body is nature & spirit. When your body receives what it needs, it will work for you.
It will move into healing and repair.
Deep Healing is not about fixing what is wrong, but about remembering what is right. And coming back into harmony with that rightness which exists inside of you already!
When we can re-shape this paradigm, the landscape of health will change radically (This is why I created my certification school, @embodiedhealingsystems - waitlist link in bio).
Healing is not just possible - it is what you are designed to do.
Remember. Remember. Remember.
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Sacred Geometry

Let’s talk about sacred geometry!
Sacred Geometry is a beautiful way to understand ALIGNMENT. It’s the understanding that there are basic, underlying patterns and shapes which form the rhythms and flows of life.
These patterns are simple in that they usually begin with a basic shape, and mysterious because as the basic shape is duplicated or combined with other shapes, they take on a complexity that mimics the harmonic rhythms of all physical and spiritual life.
What does this have to do with your healing and alignment?
Well, if you’ve ever had a sense of destiny. If you’ve ever felt that you had a path you were meant to walk here on earth. If you’ve had a sense of sacred calling on your life, then you have tapped into your sacred geometry!
Human bodies have sacred geometry also. This includes your actual skeletal structure, cellular structure and organ positioning.
To go deeper, DNA is sacred geometry, snowflakes are sacred geometry. Water...
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[PODCAST EPISODE 68] - A MOMENT IN MY HEALING JOURNEY

I’m writing a memoir, and in that process I’ve been reflecting on lots of moments in my healing journey. On this episode of the podcast, I’m sharing one of those moments with you. An important time in my life 8 or 9 years ago when I healed the top layers of depression, freeze, and paranoid delusions. It was both a physical and spiritual experience. 

 

Enjoy!

 

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Your Journey is Divine

If you have lived a life that has required you to go into nervous system and spiritual override (aka pushing past your body, sensations & emotions), when you make the conscious choice to slow down and come back to your body it can be very uncomfortable. Your body will do all kinds of things as it receives signals that it is now only to move into the natural state of repair.
This is the time where you are becoming present to what the override has prevented you from feeling.
Yes our natural state is to live inside our bodies, but it is something we must re learn. And RE member.
And the detoxification of the old way is very real within you.
Harmony is our nature but our nature has been forgotten.
The pattern you are rewiring when you come home to yourself is a big one! It includes your cells, nervous system, spirit and psyche as well as your generational line past and present.
So be patient with yourself. Release attachment to the mind, to the outcome, to what the mind...
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There is no Shame!

There is no shame
In your heart’s desire.
The opening and blossoming of your essence
And the feeling of being fully alive.
The messiness and the grace.
The beautiful unfolding.
The depths and heights of you.
The beauty of your pure soul.
As you dance with life itself.
The healing is in the living.
It’s in the breathing.
Your self expression shining as bright as life itself.
Eliminating resistance.
You are a quantum imprint.
The footprints of the galaxy.
And there is no shame in that.
With Love,
Shyla
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