Shyla Cash Blog

Repairing Relational Trauma

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At its core, repairing relational trauma as in complex and childhood trauma (including family dysfunction) requires intimacy. New experiences with intimacy and being seen in new and safe ways.

That’s messy business!

It FEELS messy and chaotic. It’s not something you can mindset your way into - or intellectualize or talk around.

Sure there’s some mindset involved - but the actual healing and renegotiation work is body stuff. Plain and simple.

The work I do with clients is about tapping into those intimacy and relational patterns at their core.

I work with super smart, ambitious, talented tender hearted people who have been able to figure ALOT of things out with their minds and mindset, and even some emotional work.

They’ve built lives they are proud of and thankful for and accomplish more than most - others wonder how they can do it all….

And yet?

They still have pockets of life that feel mysteriously challenging.

For example:

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Life is Always Calling us Forward

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Struggle. Talent. Art. Performance. Trauma.

Working with high performers who are talented, gifted and skillful - helping them on their healing journey - PLUS my own fascination with work and what it means for us as humans (hello Generator 5/2 Human Design) always has me thinking about these things.

The pain of life and its relationship to our work.

The age-old idea seems to be true that most of our gifts emerge initially from a place of pain or need. This is why I believe we adore superheroes - mostly mere mortals whose powers were born through tragedy or pain.

What I am particularly interested as a healing and alignment coach to excellent people who love to excel, contribute and succeed - people who feel CALLED to a certain work in the world - is how we can evolve our relationship to the work we do.

Acknowledging that much of the birth of talents and gifts happened in the dark places.

Because what I see happen over and over is that the gift saves us when it’s...

[PODCAST EPISODE 70] - EASE, FLOW & HARD WORK

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This week’s podcast episode is about the seeming contradiction between the “ease and flow” paradigm and the “hard work” paradigm.

In the online and personal development space these two “camps” seem to be miles away from each other. In reality, I believe they are more closely related than they seem.

In this episode, I share how I reconcile these two paradigms that seem to contradict each other. I also talk about how it all connects to your trauma healing and alignment journey as a high performer, entrepreneur and/or leader.

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[PODCAST EPISODE 69] - ACCEPTING THE IMPACT OF CHILDHOOD TRAUMA

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Accepting the Impact of Childhood Trauma

Accepting the impact of trauma is the most important step in the healing journey:

What Does it mean to accept the impact of trauma?
To become aware of and address the longstanding physical, emotional and mental effects of traumatic experiences. To make the journey back into the body and begin the process of discharging chronic stress so the body can move itself into a state of repair and regeneration.

I have worked with A LOT of high performers. And one thing I have noticed is that accepting the impact of trauma is VERY challenging. I experienced this myself early in my healing journey. There’s a protective denial that unconsciously forms around the pain of the past.

And we unconsciously look away from these painful, shocking or terrorizing experiences that have happened to us. This is partly because this deep understanding of trauma and what it actually IS is very new - it’s very cutting edge. And so...

[PODCAST EPISODE 67] - MESSY UPGRADES & EXPANSIONS

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In this episode we are talking about UPGRADES! What is actually happening in your body when you are expanding in business and life, breaking through upper limits, and healing?

This reframe will help you have more compassion and understanding for yourself and the journey you’ve already experienced in your evolution so far.

It will also help you to surrender the blessed messiness of life’s journey of living life as BIG as you possibly can.

Because I know that’s what your soul came here to do.

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In your Heart, there is a Seed

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In your heart of hearts there is a seed.

A seed of destiny that longs to grow through you.

This seed is what pulls you inward to itself... it is what gives you the strength to face your darkest shadows and deepest fears.

In the beginning, this delicate seed in the chamber of your heart is private and delicate. It can only be touched by gentle hands and witnessed with gentle eyes.

But as it is fed and watered by both you and the Divine, it grows strong and powerful. And your destiny starts to take shape in the sacred geometry of your life, love and business.

When you forget about this seed, life begins to feel dry and forceful and pushed. Things simply dry up and feel brittle. Sometimes they even hurt. When we grow impatient we leave the chamber of the heart where we have been nourishing this seed of destiny. Where we have been faithfully pulling up the weeds that threaten to strangle it...

And we seek something out there... the next business goal......

Who are you Really?

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It hurts my heart to see women who are successful and high performing struggle to feel truly safe with business and money. To see them struggle to feel present and settled in the amazing life they’ve created…

…Even after accomplishing things 90% of people wouldn’t dream of accomplishing.

As a healing and alignment coach, it hurts me.

And I created SUPERNOVA to meet this raw need I see.

To help you remember who you are - and that you are different - truly unique. And that the work you are here to do is special, and huge and magnificent, and that you are worthy of receiving and feeling safe with money as you bring that vision into the world.

To help you break free from the bondage of money chasing and ground your feet and heart so deeply into what you came here to do that your heart bursts with light and begins to dissolve the resistance.

Sure business is hard, at times - but it’s not meant to be a marathon of pain. It’s not meant to...

You Did not Come Here to...

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You did not come here to:
Speak like everyone else
Live like everyone else
Do business like everyone else
Be run down
Feel lost about who you are and what you came here for
Spin around on the surface and feel like you’re not truly tapping your heart’s potential
Work like everyone else
Sell like anyone else.
Run on a hamster wheel chasing money
Sell your soul doing the same old thing when your soul wants to expand now and forever.
Be told who you are by the outside world.

You came here with a specific destiny - a sacred geometry. It is completely and utterly individualized. That means it’s yours and yours alone.

The courage and love it takes to embody THAT is what allows the highest expression of your dharma (life’s work) to be born. This is also the work which activates the prosperity in your DNA and leaves a mark on the world.

The work that holds your unmistakable energetic blueprint.

It doesn’t look like anyone else’s.

You came here to be prosperous in...

Prosperity and your Nervous System

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The reason I love working with driven, ambitious people in healing is because I love to work with people who have a vision and are determined to make it happen.
I love helping these people manifest their heart's calling in a way that supports them in their deep foundational healing including nervous system regulation, trauma healing & spiritual healing.
My core belief is that we can have it all.
I believe in healing and regeneration for all people.

Sometimes you may get discouraged and believe you have to do it like everyone else.
Although the way "everyone else" does it is actually an illusion and doesn't exist.
Or, you may feel that you constantly have to push away old hurts, childhood wounds and simply push yourself to deliver.

I am here to bring the good news - there is a better way.

You can bring your highest vision to life, live your purpose and do it in a way that supports your happiness, soul freedom and genuine health.

This is the...

[PODCAST EPISODE 66] - BONUS IG LIVE

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In this bonus episode of the Heal for Real Podcast, I am sharing the replay of an Instagram Live from October 11th. In that live, I covered Why your soul is saying YES to Supernova (The Spiritual Mastermind for Leaders and Entrepreneurs)! And why you MUST answer the call.

I cover:

1 - The evolutionary leap we are on as spiritual, conscious entrepreneurs

2- Prosperity - this is a prosperity Mastermind - freedom from fear and control around money and KNOWING that you can be your true self and receive prosperity.

3- Prosperity is a healing experience! In Supernova, we are releasing the shame, grief and fear and unhealthy pressures that keep you from owning your uniqueness.

4 - Knowing yourself and what you are truly here to do - Allowing yourself to own that you are here to bring something REVOLUTIONARY and completely unique into the world is the magic!

5- You have done the deep work - you have hit successful goals, you have healed so...

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