There was a time when I didn’t have my right mind - my sanity. As a teen you could have diagnosed me with reactive attachment disorder and severe depression and ADHD among other things.

I grew up in a very dysfunctional home. My mom suffers with paranoid schizophrenia and manic depression.

Her childhood was awful - she talks about being suicidal at 11.

She didn’t make her way to healing.

And when she had me, she struggled. And as a result she severely abused and neglected me. She also decided to homeschool me until I was 11.

Growing up in that situation took its toll on my developing brain and body. On the outside I adapted well as I was very smart and quite gifted as a kid. I learned how to perform in school and in church. I kept my home life a secret.

People who knew my mom knew something wasn’t right - but I felt a pressure to protect my parents and so I put on a happy face. As I got older I continued to perform well despite the inner turmoil.

But the body is not...

‍‍WHAT YOU NEED TO KNOW ABOUT ATTACHMENT - 3 THINGS ‍‍

Number 1

Attachment is more than a behaviour style - it is LIFE & SURVIVAL. As in - Your attachment patterns are your life patterns.

This is the biggest misconception about attachment - that we can narrow it down to a few different behavior styles.

Sure - that is part of it. The styles are helpful as a beginning tool of identifying our type and the type of those we love. And getting some understanding about our behaviors and patterns.

But then what? Work really hard at changing those patterns through mindset?

Attachment is literally LIFE itself. It starts when you are in the womb, where you are attached to your mother for your survival. And then when you come out of the womb, you need your mother’s body for regulation.

You don’t even know your body is separate from your mothers at this point - your mother’s body is your lifeline - the rhythm of her heart. Her smell. It's all you know.

When you...

‍Life force energy, survival energy, repression, raw expression! ‍

Most people are repressed. It’s just the truth.

Most people are terrified of the absolute full force of their life energy.

Especially if you’ve spent a life time being pushed back, held back and then doing it to yourself on repeat without even knowing it.

It’s not your fault.

Other people are scared of your life energy too.

So there’s another reason to mask and repress it and suppress it until your bones ache and you’re so bored with yourself that you wanna self sabotage to at least feel alive in the chaos.

The only problem? The more you repress the more you self-destruct.

The body wasn’t designed for that.

It was designed for expression - it was designed for flow. The body is an electrical conductor that carries energy to your organs, your DNA, your brain stem and every cell in your body.

This is trauma - the survival energy pent up and stored in your body that keeps your from...

.What about receiving? 

…being carried, guided and supported by the flow, by God who is life itself.

To receive, you open your hands
Open your heart…

Versus?

Versus chasing after everything from your mind and your tight shoulders.

You don’t receive from working hard in your brain.

Braced up for impact all the while. Desiring more in your heart of hearts and at the same time thinking hard about how to get it.

Receiving is the deep down breath into the tummy and down into the ground.

Receiving is the letting go through the body and the full experience of surrender…

My journey with receiving has been quite the roller coaster.

Because letting go wasn’t something that came naturally to me…

My biology was wired for holding so tight and tighter and tighter and tighter until it hurt like hell and then holding on some more. Abuse and neglect will do that to a person.

First with relationships - then with money.

I chased after my parents love.
I twisted and...

Buckle up for this conversation with a few of the most recent Embodied Healing Systems Graduates: Andrea Fleming, Denita Bremer & Amber Taylor.

We talked:

• Learning with your full body
• Being a unique individual in your work,
• What happens in the group field of healing and learning
• What it's like to experience your nervous system full-on after being in freeze
• Why intellectual stimulation and REAL nervous system education is essential ...and so much more. 

Honestly the caliber of practitioners inside EHS is second to none and this conversation is a taste of the kind of work we do on the regular inside the School.  

After all - this is a school for the deeper, smarter, more switched on practitioners.

Apply here for This Round of The school of Embodied Healing Systems: www.shylacash.com/embodiedhealingsystems 

He was just like my mom… 

In my early twenties I had a dumpster fire of a relationship filled with chaos and codependency. 

I was the savior and the good girl who was going to rescue my addict boyfriend and make him unbroken.

Have you ever been there?

Turns out it was me that was sick and twisted up from a childhood of abuse and stranger-than-fiction family dysfunction. 

My mother - the paranoid schizophrenic, violent, manic depressive tyrant. And my father, ever loyal to my mother and unable to get himself or me out of the situation.

When I was spat out into the world, I was driven, ambitious, high-performing and talented. I was also extremely unaware of just how much my childhood had marked me. 

I didn’t know I had brain damage from growing up in abuse and neglect. 

I didn’t know I was in the chronic freeze and had been my entire life.
I was a MESS - but I had no sweet clue about that. 

In...

In this episode Carly shares her experience working together 1-1 for 6 months!

She talks about how it didn't feel fancy to invest in her life and nervous system because there wasn't a tangible result like there is when investing in business.

But ultimately, she fell in love with the work and experienced impact in both her business AND her life.

She also talks about her experience inside The School of Embodied Healing Systems and calls this work life-saving!

You will LOVE this candid conversation.

Links: Follow Carly on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/carlyhamiltonjones/

Work with Carly: https://hello.dubsado.com/public/appointment-scheduler/6321af1d3d298d2c64ae3646/schedule 

Follow Shyla on Instagram: www.instagram.com/growhealchange 

Work With Shyla 1-1: www.shylacash.com/jumpstart 

Recently I went through something terrifying that would have absolutely taken me out before I built the nervous system that I have now.

AND I am so glad that I had the tools and knowledge to support me to get through it and keep me sane.

Fear & stress is part of the game when you’re an ambitious, high-performing entrepreneur. It’s part of life - there’s no way of getting around that!

But you CAN navigate fear in a way that leads to more capacity, more health and deeper purpose?

This episode is all about leaning into fear but with a nervous system spin!


Here’s what I cover:

• What is happening in your body when you feel fear and do it anyway?
• Is it true that everything you want is outside of your comfort zone? 
  
• The Body’s Fear/Stress Cycle and How to Interrupt it so you can overcome fear and 
  achieve your dreams
• Supplements that I recommend for times of edgy expansion and growth
• How to Support Your Physical Body to let go of stress and...

This episode of the Heal for Real Podcast features the lovely Amber Taylor.

Amber is a pleasure coach who works with people who are audacious enough to choose joy.

In this episode she talks about:
What it was like to do this work and how it differed from the mindset work she had done in the past.
Realizing that her body had been stuck in chronic freeze.
Learning to go at the pace her body was asking her to go
Her experience inside The School of Embodied Healing Systems
How doing this work supported her to release shame
Realizing how her ADHD symptoms were related to nervous system dysregulation
Working through mom-stuff without needing to repair the relationship

Links:
Follow Amber on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ambertaylorcoaching/

Follow Shyla on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/growhealchange/ 

Shyla’s website: www.shylacash.com

In this episode, the lovely Alana shares her experience of doing this nervous system work! 

We Discuss: 

• The difference between this work and other more talk and thought centred coaching and how she had to adjust to it
• How somatic work supported Alana to naturally begin taking care of her body and nourishing it with food (something she had been working on for a long time, that naturally clicked into place with this work)
• How the subtle, slow changes felt like a blossoming flower
• Alana's experience inside EHS Foundations and how that supported her to integrate 1-1 work deeper 
• AND LOTS MORE OF COURSE!

If you enjoy this episode, could you please leave a rate and review? It helps others find this work, and I so appreciate it. 

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Email Shyla: [email protected] 
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